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| If
you want to use the courts or police to protect yourself, you
need to document what is happening to you so that it can be
presented as evidence in court. |
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| Keep
track of |
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- all incidents of harassment
of threat
- the feelings you experience
about it
- measures you have taken to
protect yourself
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| You
can do this in a journal or diary; or you can keep a log especially
for stalking. Shelter staff may also assist in documenting if
we see him around the shelter. In keeping track; be sure to
record: |
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- Date and Time
- Description of the Incident
- Any Witnesses - names, addresses
and telephone numbers
- Whether you phoned the Police
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| DO |
avoid
all contact with the stalker and do not respond to the stalker
once you've told him NO. |
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| DO |
tell
people what is happening to you and the danger you feel |
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| DO |
tell
other the importance of keeping your phone number and address
secret |
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| DO |
keep
everything the stalker sends you on file and try to tape telephone
messages |
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| DO |
keep
a diary of approaches, calls, letters and incidents to do with
the stalking |
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| DO |
report
the staking to the police. Try not to be discouraged if they
don't respond the way you want. |
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| DON'T |
ignore
what is happening to you or keep it a secret |
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| DON'T
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minimize
or underestimate the danger you may be in |
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| Pay
attention to behaviour that doesn't seem or feel right |
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- Guys who don't listen to you,
ignore you or talk over you. These guys have no respect
for women.
- Guys who sit or stand too
close to you, make you feel uncomfortable and enjoy making
you feel this way.
- Guys who POWER STARE - You
know - when a guy is looking right through you or down at
you.
- Guys who do only what they
want or push or grab you to get what they want
- Guys who express anger and
violence towards women either through words (i.e.. Bitch,
I'm going to kill you...) or by pushing, shoving or biting
- Guys with a bad attitude toward
women (i.e.. Women are meant to be seen and not heard...a
woman's place is in the kitchen so she can serve a man...)
- Guys who are overly jealous
or possessive - these guys can be very controlling
- Guys who drink or use drugs
heavily
- Guys with a reputation for
scoring. They are likely to pressure you for sex when you
go out with them
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